Lessons from Kim K’s School of Hard Knocks
Article by @MsKkj
I’m about to say something that will shock regular Chaud readers who know about my reality tv character rants. The recent news that Kim Kardashian and Kanye West are to be parents, made me review my thoughts on Kim K. You have to hand it to Kim, if she was a superhero I would bet her secret power would be the ability to ignore criticism.
Kim has often been accused of being narcissistic but to be fair, in this day and age, aren’t we all? Instagram’s popularity and the number of “selfies” uploaded on there is surely an indication that there are a good number of us obsessed with ourselves. Before some of you, without the app on your phone, feel all sorts of smug, I’ll point out that instagram users are not alone.
We now live in a world where a certain number of followers and Retweets, means approval of who we are (our thoughts, interests and day to day activities). People praising us for looking pretty, witty, smart, sexy etc, will be retweeted continuously for other members of your timeline to see, as if to say, “see, look at how all these people think I’m sexy, smart, kind, witty and fun!”.
An unfollow for many means someone does not think your tweets are as amusing or interesting as you think you are. For those whose feelings are interwoven with social media, you will retaliate by unfollowing right back and then proceed to subtweet about it. There are the creators of “Team followback”, if that isn’t a neon sign practically begging people to accept you because you accept them…then I don’t know what is.
#NeverForget Kim the musician
What does all this have to do with Kim? Imagine if one selfie, one tweet or a few tweets or one private act became public and all of a sudden your twitter and facebook newsfeeds were flooded with strangers opinions about you. Would you withstand the twitter trolls, jokers, Retweet endorsers, subtweets and trending topics? People have deactivated and deleted their twitter accounts for less. Yet Kim stays strong. If nothing else I respect her staying power and that’s one lesson I have learned.
Laugh if you will but there are lessons that one can possibly learn from this notoriously famous Kardashian.
1. Never let the past get in the way of your future.
Most people would enter a nunnery and pray Jesus comes quickly because the end of the world means no one is watching the tape or talking about it. Not Kim. Allegedly the tape made her into a celebrity off of Ray J’s waning celebrity. When the world gave her lemons, she made lemonade, branded it and sold it to the masses. If Kim thought her future was in jeopardy for some of her past decisions, she never shows it.
2. Never let your propensity of loving to be in love deter from looking for love. Again. And again.
Kim tried it. Married Damon Hayes. Dated Ray J. Dated Reggie Bush. Married Kris Humphries. Finally she found Kanye. We may laugh but how many of us have had a bad relationship experience and closed down shop for the entire male species? I’m not saying Kim’s route should be yours but isn’t the lesson here, keep trucking on and hoping?
“And I’ll never let my son have an ego
He’ll be nice to everyone, wherever we go
I mean, I might even make ‘em be Republican
So everybody know he love white people
And I’ll never let ‘em leave his college girlfriend
And get caught up with the groupies in the whirlwind
And I’ll never let ‘em ever hit the telethon
I mean even if people dyin’ and the world ends
See, I just want him to have an easy life, not like Yeezy life
Just want him to be someone people like
Don’t want him to be hated, all the time judged
Don’t be like your daddy that would never budge
And I’ll never let ‘im ever hit a strip club
I learned the hard way, that ain’t the place to get love
And I’ll never let his mom move to L.A.
Knowin’ she couldn’t take the pressure, now we all pray.” Kanye’s New Day
3. Judgement does not pay bills, so be blind to it.
Kim K doesn’t seem to care about the judgement that most of us have hurled her way. As I was typing this I thought about Kim’s business plan. Somewhere in there it must read; maintain relevance. People can love you, hate you or even disrespect you but if they are talking about you and you are in the business of making money off of being seen, known and being relevant? Aren’t you simply going to smile and go on another shopping trip in your latest luxury car? If it gets too much for you, you can take a trip to some secluded island with service staff at your beck and call while you de-stress. The fact is her business model and brand require her to be in the public eye. We keep her in business by talking about her. Word of mouth is powerful.
What lessons do you think can be learned from Kim Kardashian or even Kanye West?
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